Talking and listening should add up to communication, right? Not always. Communication is delicate yet powerful, it can make you fall in love, it can start wars, it can create a feeling of belonging and being nurtured and it can cause the darkest pain. The first question you must ask your self is, what do I want to get across in my verbal or physical expression, that is, what do I want to communicate and to whom?
There are eight steps to effective communication. To live an aware, causative life, you need to be very precise and tenacious in implementing these eight basics. Omitting any one of the steps or failing to apply the steps correctly will negatively impact personal, professional and business relationships. Conversely, applying these steps and mastering your communication will breathe life into your existing relationships optimizing personal, professional and business relationships.
These eight basics are what underlie all personal accomplishments and happiness.
( The originator of the communication is referred to as Source A. The receiver of the communication is referred to as Source B.)
Step One: ARE YOU READY AS SOURCE A?
Is your attention free enough to focus on the person whose attention you want? Are you fully present to deliver your communication? In order to have an effective and successful communication, no matter how simple or complex, you must start the process correctly, that is, being present and focused.
Step Two: IS SOURCE B READY?
Is Source B’s attention free enough to focus on you or where you want to direct his attention? Trying to talk to someone from another room or when they’re preoccupied is frustrating for both parties. Both A and B have to be present in order to have an effective communication.
Step Three: YOU DELIVER A COMMUNICATION THAT SOURCE B CAN COMPREHEND.
A vital part of delivering good communication is verifying that the person truly comprehends the entire communication. It should mean the same to both the sender and the receiver.
This seems simple enough but in fact it requires a high level of awareness, presence, focus and directness. A statement or question that creates confusion that is not resolved often results in upset.
Step Four: SOURCE B LOOKS AT WHAT THE COMMUNICATION DIRECTED THEIR ATTENTION TO.
When a communication is delivered to a person, that person will relay the communication and his attention to his mind or something in the environment. This triggers the mind into pulling up data files, with the appropriate information being presented to the receiver for viewing. The receiver will then observe the information presented by the mind or environment. This step can be instantaneous or might take up to several hours.
Step Five: SOURCE B RESPONDS IN SUCH A WAY THAT YOU CAN COMPREHEND.
Step Six: YOU ACKNOWLEDGE IN SUCH A WAY THAT SOURCE B KNOWS THAT HE’S BEEN COMPREHENDED AND APPRECIATED.
An acknowledgment means: I heard what you said, I duplicated what you told me, I understand, I appreciate that you took the time to respond. An acknowledgment is the completion of the segment of the communication. It’s like a period at the end of a sentence. It let’s you know that communication is complete and understood.
An acknowledgment is a form of truth. It is an indication that you are receiving at this time, in this place and in this mood, a description of a happening. It does not require that you agree with the idea or viewpoint you just received.
Step Seven: SOURCE B FEELS THAT HE HAS BEEN COMPREHENDED AND APPRECIATED. This is manifested by the person brightening up, coming to life, a more cheerful demeanor, a degree of certainty, a feeling of being more at cause.
Step Eight: ARE YOU READY?T
This is a partial repeat of step one, except that a certain change has taken place. Therefore, a correct next question or statement would be needed.
These eight basics have corresponding exercises that are designed to strengthen your skill and ultimate mastery in effective communication. To remove upsets and conflict out of your life and replace it with harmony, prosperity, friendliness and happiness, it becomes mandatory to put your integrity in on your communication skills. Please contact Life Technologies about these exercises.
COMMUNICATION SEQUENCE
- Are you ready as Source A?
- Is Source B ready?
- You ask a question that the person can comprehend.
- The person looks at what has been accessed.
- The person tells you in such a way that you can comprehend.
- You acknowledge in such a way that the person knows that he has been comprehended and appreciated.
- The person feels that he has been comprehended and appreciated.
- Are you ready?
The intention of what you want to communicate, what you do communicate and what is received and duplicated should all equal understanding.